Best Parenting Advice Ever?

WOW. Great parenting advice! Whack the gay out of your son! Shame him if he doesn’t conform to conventional binary sexual roles! There can only be macho men and dainty women. God doesn’t approve of diversity of character!

Oh wait, he loves everyone? Oh ok my bad.

I get that this guy isn’t the spokesperson for Christianity, or North Carolina, or religious people, or conservatives, or anyone.  I’m just marveling at a specific comment by this one guy.  It’s a sentiment I’d hope not too many others agree with.

And if this is your idea of a joke, you’re a liar an asshole not funny.

I find it especially disconcerting because talk like this perpetuates the idea that it’s abnormal to be gay.  But if we look at nature (get off my back, it’s Wikipedia, read the links in it), it appears to be quite common and “natural”, if we use what occurs in the animal kingdom as a model for nature devoid of human culture.  But beyond that, we should simply be able to say that it’s wrong to deal with those who are different, who represent “the other”, with violence.  Even if it’s non-physical violence, we implicitly commit acts of violence on others by telling them they are not worthy, they are wrong, that they can’t be included, that they are less than we are.

We benefit from the diversity of character that is celebrated in our society.  To me it’s no different than the fools who thought we’d be better off without the Catholics or the Chinese. Backwards minded people fearful of change and of their own place in the world taking out their existential frustrations on a convenient target.

Via Stephen Walsh at

A Fayetteville, North Carolina, pastor has retracted controversial language used during a weekend sermon in which he instructed parents to hit children who exhibited behavior associated with homosexuality.

“I apologize to anyone I have unintentionally offended,” Sean Harris, pastor of Berean Baptist Church wrote in a statement on his church’s website. “I did not say anything to intentionally offend anyone in the LGBT community.

“My intent was to communicate the truth of the Word of God concerning marriage,” the statement continued. “My words were not scripted. It is unfortunate I was not more careful and deliberate.”

Harris’s remarks at his church came a week before the state’s voters consider an amendment to North Carolina’s constitution limiting legal unions to marriage between a man and a woman.

“The second you see your son dropping that limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist,” Harris said in the Sunday sermon. “Man up. Give him a good punch.”

“You’re not going to act like that,” the pastor advised parents to tell their children. “You were made by God to be a male and you are going to be a male.”

In an interview with the Fayetteville Observer, Harris said his comments were meant as a joke. In a video of the sermon posted online, laughter can be heard from some members of the congregation, as well as cries, of “Amen!” as the pastor spoke about responding to seemingly gay kids.

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Berean Baptist explains its stance on discipline of children on its website:

“Remembering the love and forgiveness that God has shown them, parents in turn should train their children with the purpose of reflecting the Heavenly Father to their children. Parents should consider their responsibility to be the instrument of discipline in their child’s life (Prov. 19:18). At times this may include appropriate and reasonable physical means (Prov. 10:13) employed upon the fleshy portion of the child’s buttocks (Prov. 22:1523:13); that this method is to be viewed as correction rather than punishment (Prov. 23:13); and that this correction will result in the child’s physical and spiritual betterment.”

Harris told the Observer that from within his church, “the response was, ‘Pastor, we know you didn’t mean that.'”

What do you think? Watch the above video to hear Harris’s remark and leave your comments below.


2 thoughts on “Best Parenting Advice Ever?

  1. I think the guy’s a coward. If he thinks that a Just and Loving God is a homophobic child abuser, he needs to have the spine to up and say it. I usually try to find a much more compassionate way of forgiving the idiot while condeming the idiocy, but this is about CHILDREN. I’m tired of bigots hurting children, then playing the misunderstood victim when they’re called out on it. Good post.

    1. I agree. Sarcasm is often used as a veil to cover honest intentions. When called out, the speaker can conveniently say, “just kidding!” and hope that people look the other way

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